Friends.... I CANNOT stress to you enough the point God has lead me to share with you today.
IT. IS. LIFE. CHANGING!!!!
It is not simple. There is a process that takes place in your heart that allows you to master this. Even then, you may still have slip ups where you return to your default, programmed reactions. BUT God, is faithful in pulling you back, when you seek Him with all of your heart.
What am I talking about?
Yes,The immediate, default, often hasty reactions we have to outside circumstances or happenings in our life.
You may be one of the rare few that have always been slow to react, quick to process and pray and think through the event before reacting to it. If that is you... you are very blessed.
Most of us are very quick to react and respond and more often than not, it is to our demise.
The desire to quickly respond, whether it be out of retaliation or the anxiety you feel when you have "unfinished" business, will often lead to massive problems and a bigger mountain to conquer.
I have learned this first hand. Everything God leads me to speak about on this blog, are things I personally have experienced. I do not share anything out of naivety.
Recently, I shared the storm that Garrick and I have been facing the last six years. I cannot tell you how many times my quick and thoughtless reactions along with my desire to retaliate took the already horrible situation and made it devastating... to myself... to my husband... and worst of all... to my children.
Oh believe me... I am not saying there were not times I felt my reactions were completely justified, however, they did 100 times more damage than good.
They may have felt "good and right" in the moment... but later.... they felt very ugly.
Our God, is a God of peace, patience and though He is very righteous and just, He is also very loving.
There were SOOO many times that out of anger, hurt and deep frustration I pondered ending my marriage. And there were times I felt I really meant it, yet there were times I said it out of retaliation and a desire to hurt my spouse.
If I had chosen to leave my marriage....
I would have turned a mess... into a disaster!!
THIS, is why it is SO incredibly imperative that we learn to pause.... be still.
"He says, 'Be still and know that I am God." Psalm 46:10
Stop. Don't immediately react. PRAY! Walk away. Take a walk. Call someone. Take a million deep breaths. Run to a room and cry! GO running! ( I have done this!) Close your eyes and go to your happy place. (I have done this... it is usually always memories of of being at my grandparents home!)
Be still. And KNOW that He is God.
My quick and thoughtless reactions can only make things more unbearable for everyone involved.
This is why Jesus tells us if someone slaps you on the cheek, turn to him the other. He does not say this for you to become a door mat or a human punching bag. I believe He is saying this as a warning NOT to respond in retaliation.
Almost 100% of the time, when I refuse to react quickly to something and instead choose to walk away or take time to process with God, my desire to retaliate diminishes completely. He is able to fill my heart with peace, love and patience and remind me of the fallibility of all human, myself included.
What extinguishes a fire is not adding more fuel but covering it with living, refreshing water.
With God... you can be that water.
Your reaction to another person, even one that has hurt you, has the ability to change them in ways you may never be aware of.
Imagine in a fit of rage, you are yelling accusations and names at another person and instead of yelling back, they walk up to you, touch your shoulder and say..
"I don't want to fight with you, I know you are angry, I am sorry for what has happened, can we just calm down and work through this together?"
Or when you are angry with your spouse and you are crying and explaining to them why you feel hurt and instead of becoming defensive and possibly angry or nasty... they come to you and put their arms around you and tell you its going to be okay... they love you.
WOW! What do you think this could do?
I think.... it could change the world.
Today... choose not to react but process.
If you are faced with a difficult situation or person, be still.
Pray. Ask God for guidance. Nothing has to be resolved right that second.
Choose to turn your mess.... into a VICTORY!
God is so good at what He does..... Achieving victory... is effortless for Him.
He has made me... A Woman Redeemed.
Peace and Blessings