Yesterday, I was extremely lazy and never got around to getting a marriage devotion typed up. Aside from my obvious slothiness, I was struggling to hear God and any message that He may want me to convey.
This morning, as I was laying in bed I suddenly had a topic plant in my mind.... "What it's Like to be Married to Me." I continued to listen, thinking, surely God has something a whole lot more beneficial and interesting for me to share, but I listened to no avail.
I heard loud and clear.... share your view point of what it is like to be in a non breakable covenantal union with YOU! Hmmmmm REALLY?? LOL
Okay.... for You God, I will take on this challenge!
Part of humbling ourselves enough to make a difference in our marriage is recognizing our flaws and faults. It is very easy to pin everything on our spouse without doing a full blown self examination. If both spouses commit to doing this.... it can save you from most arguments and quarrels. Very often, the little things we find "annoying" or "troublesome" with our spouse, set off something equally or more annoying and troublesome in us. We have to take a long hard look!
Along with recognizing our faults we must also have a strong grasp on our strengths and positive qualities! We all DO have some and it is imperative that we bring these to the table in our relationships. We often want to stuff these, especially if we are angry or frustrated with our spouse. When their negative qualities rear their ugly head... that does not mean ours have to as well! Don't stuff them... continue to use them! A lesson I still have a long way to go in learning! Trust me!
So here is what my self examination looks like! Here is what I believe it is like being married to me.......
1. I can be moody and easily overwhelmed at times, especially if I am hormonal!
2. When I am moody, I prefer to be left alone.
3. I love to laugh and I love stupid things to laugh at. I wish I could belly laugh every day!
4. I am NOT a night person! Sometimes that night owl comes out, but normally, NOT!
5. My am very sensitive. My heart is pretty fragile, especially after the long hard season we just came out of. This can be a positive in our marriage, but also a big negative. It is something I continue to work on. I am at least aware of it!
6. I struggle when other appear "lazy." It is a struggle for me to sit and rest, therefore, I can be judgey when others want to do this. Sorry dear.
7. I LOVE little surprises! My life is pretty monontonous, like most other peoples, so I love a little something out of the ordinary!
8. On the contrary....I DON'T LOVE negative surprises!!! LOL I like routine and stability and anything that throws a monkey wrench in that, often throws one in me as well!
9. I love to make our house a home! I love to decorate and make our home cozy. I want others to feel welcome and at home in our house and we live pretty much with an open door policy!
10. I like attention and affection, but not always!! LOL Sometimes I just want to lay like a corpse and be left alone! I often expect my poor husband to know which mood I am in! Sorry again dear!
11. I am a bit of a romantic! I love, love notes, surprises, candles and foot rubs!
12. I like to keep my house tidy! Not perfect and I struggle with organization, but I thrive in a tidy home. When things are a total disaster, I tend to get a bit bent!
13. I love to bake treats for my family and others! Though I have become more tame in this area as life has gotten busier, I still enjoy it!
14. I get burned out more often than I care to. I struggle with finding balance in taking time away even when I don't think I need it, to avoid the inevitable burn out that will come if I don't!
15. I cook A LOT! I do like to cook, but I often get tired of this as well! I get frustrated with the complaints over the weekly menu, so I allow that to steal some of my joy of cooking!
16. I am NOT a perfectionist and I don't care much about detail! I go for the illusion of perfection. FYI, I am married to a perfectionist!! Do you see the struggle???? LOL
17. I don't screw lids on tight enough, sometimes, not at all!
18. When I am burned out, angry, frustrated or miffed, I get quiet.
19. I worry too much about things I can't control! Another thing I am really trying to allow God to curtail!
20. I have a forgiving heart. It may take me time to move past certain things, but my heart is very open to forgiveness.
21. I love the Lord, and though may struggle, desire to put Him first in all I do!
22. I am a dedicated mama, who desires more than anything to love my children and train them to love the Lord!
23. I am empathetic and very aware of other's feelings.
24. I am pretty easily entertained! I am happy snuggling on the couch with a snack and movie!
25. I am not really adventurous or a risk taker! Safety is key!! LOL
26. Coming out of the season we have been in, I have not been as diligent about this, but over all it is important for my husband to be happy and I want to make him feel glad he married me, every day of his life!
So there you have it! I am sure there is more my husband could add, but I am out of time and thoughts! LOL
Do a self assessment! What is like to be married to you??? Is it a good thing or not so much??
Take heart friend.... God can CHANGE anything!!!!
Peace and Blessings
Meaningful, Messy Marriage
(Learning to Let God Lead….. One Day at a Time)
-A Woman Redeemed
Hello my friends!!!!
Today's marriage devotion is about benefits!!
Did you know that there are many benefits to being married???? LOL I know, I know, there may been times that you have questioned if this is true.... but I promise.... it is!!!
Aside from the benefits of having one another for company and for help when we need it.... and to help meet needs only our spouse can meet..... the benefits we will talk about today are the benefits we reap when we have a spouse that loves the Lord above all else!!!
Believe it or not..... we receive direct benefits from our spouse if they have a solid and established relationship with God. Consequently, we also reap the negative effects of a spouse that does not know the Lord or place Him above all else in their life.
God is very good at keeping our priorities straight and our thoughts and action Godly. Without Him, it is VERY easy to slip into a pattern of embracing idols and neglecting the very things God desires for us to place first in our lives. Satan LOoooooVVVVeeeessss this!! And Satan is so crafty, that he will often present these things as "good" things; things that are beneficial to you.
An example is a hobby. Hobbies are good right? Hobbies allow us to express our creativity and are used an a stress outlet and much needed relaxation. HOWEVER, hobbies are often placed above God and when this happens, people often struggle prioritizing their hobby in it's proper place. A hobby should never become more important than our relationship with the Lord or our spouse and family.
We are going to focus in on this scripture.....
"Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord, who walks in his ways! You shall eat the fruit of your labor of your hands; you shall be blessed, and it all should be well with you. Your wife will be like a fruitful vine within your house; your children will be like olive shoots around your table." Psalm 128:1-3
Though this scripture sounds as though it is mainly focusing in our men, we can apply this scripture to both husband and wives!!!
What we can learn from this scripture is very simple...... when we put the Lord first...... the rest of our lives will fall into their proper place. Our spouses will flourish, our children will flourish, you will be blessed. It takes the guess work out of prioritizing because God will make sure your priorities are in proper order.
In this last difficult season Garrick and I went through, the effects of misplacing God in our lives were devastating. They always are, be assured of that. We are still reaping the negative consequences from this and though God will no doubt, completely restore us, we will never be able to erase the past from our memories or our children's.
This is where we discuss balance......when you put God first..... your spouse will reap the benefits.... naturally. In order to do this.... you have to have your daily priorities in proper order.
Today.... this is what we shall work through in this devotion.
1. Take some time and make a list with your spouse of your daily priorities.
2. Assess how your prioritize these daily priorities.
3. Is your current way of prioritizing helping your spouse and children flourish?
4. Do you need to adjust your way of prioritizing???
In order for our marriages and families to flourish, we must have our priorities stacked God's way....
A great acronym I learned to prioritize life is JOY! Jesus Others You. This does not mean you should not take care of you. That is also a necessity, however, we should not constantly be placing our self and our needs above everyone else's and never above God!
This also does not mean we slack off at our jobs, what it means is, you have to be willing to pass up the promotion to make it to your date night with your spouse or your child's game. Money means nothing if you die alone. You may climb the corporate ladder, but when you reach the top, you are standing alone.
Tomorrow, I will share with you what Garrick and I discovered about our own priorities and how this negatively or positively effects our marriage!!!
Peace and Blessings
Missy and Garrick