What God has joined together..... Satan WILL try to separate.
Do you remember these words?
"I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part."
*for better OR for worse
*for richer OR for poorer
*in sickness AND in health
Chances are, when you stood at the alter or destination and repeated these vows, your heart was overflowing with love and emotion. You may still have had the fluttery butterflies when you saw your future spouse coming in the door and in your heart, you more than likely meant every word you said, not imagining the day would come, that not loving them would even be an option.
I believe there may be a choice few couples that may have lived out their married years not knowing anything but passionate love and joy, but that is more than likely the small majority.
For most of us, those vows will be tested, sometimes almost beyond the point of what we think we can bare. Spouses are human and they are sinners. Spouses will hurt you, they will get sick, they will disappoint you, they will forget to honor you, they may lie to you, ignore you or choose actions much worse.
Once you tie the knot, undoubtedly, at some point, Satan will attempt to untie it. And he will use any tactic he sees as a vulnerable, weak spot in your marriage.
On this page I will share with you;
*keys to overcoming the unthinkable in your marriage
*fun and easy ways to strengthen your marriage
*ways to grow individually in order to grow as a couple
*Humorous happenings in our marriage as laughing together is a KEY to success!
*How to STAND against the schemes of the devil
*The meaning I have found, in our messy marriage moments!
*Couples devotions that will encourage communication and quality time in your marriage.
Please join me as we trudge through the messes.... to find God's meaning!
A Messy Marriage Moment.......
Our son was about one year old and HATED the car seat! He would be fine for about the first 15 minutes of the trip and then, it was all down hill from there. He rarely ever slept in the car and if he did, it lasted 30 minutes if you were lucky. The rest of the trip he spent screaming and squirming trying to get out of his car seat. It could be maddening during long car rides.
To make things worse, I was an incredibly anxious first time mom. I never dreamed I would be. I spent most of my college years as a nanny and working in a day care, but somehow, I ended up being wound like an 8 day clock as a first time mom. I am almost certain I needed medicine for anxiety, but hind sight is 20/20 right? SO, the fact that I was very anxious puts an even greater twist on this story!
We had gone to my in laws for the weekend, which was about a 3 hour drive. On the way home my husband was hauling an old fishing boat he had stored in his hometown. Prior to leaving, he thought he had everything buckled down, secured and ready to go. I told him to make sure of it, because if our son did fall asleep, no power of hell was going to get us to stop the car! The minute the car stopped, he was up!
We left and began traveling down the highway when our son began looking pretty drowsy. We always attempted to travel during his nap time. At the same time I am watching his little eyes get sleepy, I am hearing some strange noise coming from the boat we are pulling behind us. I asked my husband what it was and he
glanced out the rear view mirror and realized he had not secured the seats well and one had flown up and was flapping in the wind. He told me he needed to pull over and fix it. I was a bit irritated as our son was beginning to fall asleep, so I told him in a not so loving tone, to take care of it and make sure it is fixed so we do not have to stop again!
He pulled over and fastened the seat back down and made sure it was secured. He got back in the car and off we went. We were about 5 miles out when our little guy finally drifted off to sleep. It was around that moment I heard that all familiar sound of something flapping violently in the wind! I turned around, looked out the back window and in a very NONLOVING tone of voice informed my husband another seat had flown up!
Well..... to quickly finish the story... he had to stop AGAIN and yes, it woke our son up!! I was SO MAD! He did not sleep the rest of the ride home. I made sure my husband knew how upset I was and I believe my anger carried on until the next day.
THIS, was a messy marriage moment that I did not handle well. Though my anxiety played a role, the bottom line was, it was an honest mistake. Could my husband have been more careful and been more diligent about securing the seats. Sure, he could, however, at the end of the day, this was not something to divide our marriage over. In fact, now we look back at this and laugh our heads off about this incident! Now, 13 years and 4 kids later, I would not react to this incident as I did back then.
Life is often reaping what you sow.... if you long to reap grace... you need to sow grace. How precious did that grace appear.... the hour I first believed.
Peace and Blessings