Meaningful, Messy Marriage
❤Moments ❤

(Learning to Let God Lead….. One Day at a Time)
-A Woman Redeemed
Welcome to week 16!!  FOUR MONTHS!!!  We are getting close to completing our segment on Forgiveness in Marriage!  Last week we focused on allowing God to humble our hearts.  A prideful heart, that looks down on our spouse for their wrongdoings, will very rarely produce forgiveness.  Understanding that we are a sinner, just like them, will begin allowing our heart to extend the grace that we so greatly need on a daily basis.

Now, it may be very true, that your spouses transgressions have been far more devastating and hurtful than your own, however, no matter what the sin, grace is the only answer.  And, as I have mentioned previously, you would be both shocked and disheartened if you were to be privy to the evil your heart is truly capable of.  Never become so prideful to assume you could "never do such a thing."  When the perfect storm of stress, pain and tribulation come sweeping into our life, we can become people we don't even recognize. People, capable of much darkness.  

But God.  I praise Him for His constant protection over my heart and actions.  Boy can I mess up, but He has guarded me from some of the colossal "mess ups" I may have participated in, without His protection.  

This week, focusing on step 5, we are going to dive into the Song of Solomon.  The Song of Solomon is a inspiring book expressing the deep love and attraction a couple has for one another.  This book has often been referenced when discussing the married Christian sex life.  Now that we have worked on;
  • Accepting our new identity in Christ.
  • Placing on trust and faith in Christ not our spouse. 
  • Humbling our hearts and letting go of our pride.
  • Focusing on whatever is lovely.... and striving to let go of negative thoughts and mindsets.

This next step is putting something "lovely" into our hearts and allowing it to take action.  This week we are going to read the Song of Solomon and begin allowing affection back into our marriage.  This is an area that often has to go slowly and each spouse needs to be extremely patient and unselfish.  I encourage you to read the entire book at some point, however there are a few scriptures that I really love that I am going to have you focus on.  This book shows the intense love and passion a couple has for one another and truly, this is God's desire for all marriages.  

For whatever reason, this world portrays the unmarried, single flinging individuals with the most passionate and fulfilling sex lives, however, God intended for this intensity and passion to be the stronger in the marriage bed!!!  

Here are the scriptures we are going to read and discuss as a couple!!  ENJOY!!

"Behold, you are beautiful my love. behold, you are beautiful.  Your eyes are like doves." Song of Solomon 1:15

"The voice of my beloved! Behold, he comes, leaping over mountains, bounding over hills." Song of Solomon 2:8

"when I found who my soul loves, I held him and would not let him go." Song of Solomon 3:4

"My am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." Song of Solomon 6:3

"Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it." Song of Solomon 8;7

1.  Tell your spouse something you find both physically and internally beautiful about them.

❤Husband’s Response:

❤Wife’s Response:

2. Think back to when you felt excited just to hear your spouses voice or when you saw them coming, the butterflies you would feel inside.  Remember when you would rush through whatever you were doing, just to be with one another.  Discuss your favorite memory with one another.

❤Husband’s Response:

❤Wife’s Response:

3. Discuss the life struggles and stressors that allowed you to begin "letting go" of your spouse.  Talk about the moments that spark that desire in your heart again.

❤Husband’s Response:

❤Wife’s Response:

4. Our desire for love should never be quenched!!  We should continue to long for our spouse like the day we began loving them!  AND, no flood should be allowed to drown that love! We will face many floods throughout our marriages.... but God... is King over the floods!!! Discuss how you will combat the floods of life and never allow the love for one another to be quenched or drown!



02/02/2017 6:37am

I believe that any kind of marriage can still be fixed. There is no bad marriage, only those who are unwilling to fix them. A groom and his wife should learn how to coexist and respect each other. Marriage isn't only a title from one person, but for both man and woman. That is why in order to get into marriage, you have to be physically and mentally ready.


Leave a Reply