(Learning to Let God Lead….. One Day at a Time)
-A Woman Redeemed
Forgiveness is a journey I will go to my grave stating that. Though little transgressions can often be quickly forgiving and moved past, larger, life altering ones, often require a journey of dedication and God leading strength.
Garrick and I have been on a journey. Throughout this journey, just as the stages of grief, it is common to move back and forth through the different stages several times. I often have to be reminded that I am a NEW creation in Christ and have to ability to forgive, even when my flesh does not agree (step 1). I often have to continually be aware of when I begin to idolize my husband's love and place it above God's desiring for him to meet all of my needs (step 2). I have had to ask God to humble my heart on more than one occasion, reminding myself, that though my husband's sin has had tremendous negative effects, in God's eyes, sin is sin and my sin is just as devastating to God (step 3). I daily, have to train my mind to focus on what which is lovely in our marriage, that which is honorable and worthy, not the negatives and painful memories of the past (step 4). It is still a struggle for me to give and receive the physical and emotional affection God longs for us to express in our marriage. It has gotten much, much better, but when I fail to keep on track with steps 1-4, this step becomes increasingly difficult (step 5).
We are now on our LAST step... and what may you ask is it????? CELEBRATING!!! YES.... YOU MUST CELEBRATE the progress you make in healing your marriage! We don't bat an eye at celebrating other things; children's achievements, birthdays, promotions, awards or any type, but our marriage my friends.... trumps ALL OF THESE!
A strong marriage is the glue that holds all of those other things in place! You need to celebrate each step you make! Celebrate as you an your husband find enjoyable to you;
- In at home date night!
- A night out, dinner and movie or just dinner!
- A night out with friends to toast your achieved step!!
- A romantic evening of affection expressing (I will let you fill in those blanks!!! LOL)
- Exchanging little gifts!
- Writing each other a heartfelt note!
- Doing something together you have always wanted to do and haven't!!
The options are endless! God has lead Garrick and I to do the last item on this list!! We are both pretty frugal people. We try to spend our money wisely for the most part and both of us struggle greatly with making BIG purchases, especially for ourselves. This is how we know this celebration suggestion is ALL God!
We try to celebrate our successful journey by doing little things such as; date nights at home, going out to dinner, surprising each other with little things (Garrick has gotten very good at this). Last week we celebrated Garrick's first Sunday back in the pulpit preaching by going out for lunch as a family! But Garrick and I could not be more excited about the celebration we are going to enjoy in April!
God told us about a month ago that we are to take a trip together! Somewhere that requires a plane ride, without children. A place we can relax, enjoy one another and also provides some romantic elements. God assured us.... we earned it!
So on April 7th we are flying away to Puerto Vallarta!!!! We are staying five nights in an all inclusive resort, with an ocean view room! We are going to enjoy long walks on the beach, romantic dinners, massages, beautiful scenery and most of all.... one another, without interruption! We are going to celebrate God's restoring power and pray that God lays individuals in our path that allow us to share out testimony!
We are so excited... we are like two little kids waiting for Christmas!!!! LOL And though money is required.... we could not care less about the cost! There is not one part of us that does not feel God is leading us on this trip, which makes it even more exciting!
So please, please, please... CELEBRATE!!! Your marriage is worth every moment of celebration! It makes God smile to see His children nurturing their marriage and it is a beautiful testimony to the world.... that marriage is worth the fight and the prize!!!
Thank you for joining us on this journey!!! We continue to pray for marriages! May God continue to restore and rescue even the seemingly hopeless marriages!!
Peace and Blessings
Missy and Garrick