The BICKERING! Yes the BICKERING!
I have yet to speak with one parent in this universe that enjoys a good old bickering session between their children. In fact, most parents state it truly about sends them over the edge, to the point they are willing to lock their children outside and give them both permission and their blessing to pommel one another!
And I am hear to tell ya.... there perhaps is nothing more irritating than the homeschool bickering!
"Will you tell her to stop BREATHING!!! I can hear her and I can't concentrate!!" Truly.... it gets that ridiculous!
Nothing is EVER their fault and if I even have the audacity to imply that it is..... I apparently have chosen my favorite child and made it obvious the one I would like to place up for adoption.
If I had a dollar for every time I heard, "you ALWAYS take his/her side" I really could jump and plane and get away from the bicker!!
I have succumb to the fact that bickering is all part of the package. I can't stop it. I can't always prevent it. And I sure as heck know I can't always escape it, though I give it a real college try!!
So.... YES.... every now and again..... a bickering session takes place that actually brings me JOY!!! YES.... JOY!!! Most of the time I want to pull my ears off the side of my head and bury them in the back yard, but, every now and again, God blesses me with a session of bicker that leaves me belly laughing and extremely grateful for my children and the joy they bring me.
Yesterday..... I was giving God thanks for a "litter box,"
Yes... a stinky, plastic, unsightly litter box.
Let me explain. Both my son and my girls have a cat. They are 100% responsible for their pets, that was the deal we made. Ergo, they keep their cat's litter boxes, in corners of their bedrooms. They have to keep them cleaned religiously and all signs of litter need to be thoroughly vacuumed. I have definitely caught some resistance with these rules, but so far, they do pretty well.
The problem is.... my girls cat, Kip, REALLY, REALLY prefers to not only eat my son's cats food, but he also prefers to poo in her littler box. Now, I am not sure why.... both cats have the same darn litter box and litter, but for whatever reason, Kip has chosen his throne and it is NOT is own!
Well.... this REALLY ticks my son off because it not only stinks up his room but it also makes it so he is having to clean his litter box more often. With just his his cat, he could usually go a couple days without cleaning it but now... he has to clean it almost daily in order to prevent his room smelling like an outhouse!
The children have bickered about this on numerous occasions but yesterday morning took the cake.
My son came marching down from his room madder than a hornet!! The conversation that took place left me belly laughing short of breath. It went something like this....
My son: "That's it.... I am tired of Kip pooping in Bonnies' litter box!! My whole room smells and I have to clean it almost ever day!! "
My daughter: "I can't help it, he just goes in there!"
My son; "Well then you are going to start cleaning out my littler box too!"
My daughter: "No I'm not! That is your litter box, I clean out my own."
My son; "Yeah, but your cat is pooping in my litter box!"
My daughter; "SO... it's still your litter box!"
My son; "FINE... then I am going to scoop the poop out of my litter box and put it back in yours!"
My daughter; "That would be dumb!"
My son; "No it wouldn't it's YOUR CATS POOP!"
Now... please keep in mind, my son was fuming I mean he was dead serious about how this poop problem was disrupting his life beyond his ability to handle it! And my daughter really couldn't have cared less!
All I could do was bust out laughing! I mean... I could not believe this argument was even taking place! I couldn't even get mad or irritated... in fact... I wanted it to keep going!!! BAHAAAA!!
The awesome thing is.... my uncontrollable laughter aided in calming the situation and everyone started laughing!!!
At that moment.... rather than being irritated about this session of bicker, I embraced it and cherished it, realizing that one day... when these two are all grown up and we are sitting around the Thanksgiving table with their spouses telling stories.... this story will bring everyone a well needed belly laugh!
It will be a precious memory we will cherish.
Now, I wish we had way more of these types of quarrels at our house, but for today, I will be grateful and happy for the few that I get to tuck way in my memory to save for a later date!!
The next time your children are bickering... stop for a moment and listen..... is this a moment to remember? Will this pointless argument... one day be a memory that wraps you in joy and comfort.
I am so blessed with my children, I truly know this, however, some days it is easy to forget. Parenting can be exhausting to say the least.
I am extremely thankful for the days.... I can laugh and cherish the moments..... that will become the stories I tell my grandchildren, God willing!
So parents... find a moment to laugh with your children today! Who would have thought.... a littler box and some poo could bring such joy!
Peace and Blessings